Self-Care Journal
Our thoughts can often be all-consuming. We can feel locked in by our internal dialogue, unable to escape.
Journaling is a great way to process your thoughts, relax your mind and gain clarity. The perfect idea for your self-care toolkit. A 2011 study published in the journal of science found that students who wrote a journal were better able to ease their anxieties.
However, as simple as it sounds, writing can be incredibly daunting. What should I write? How should I write it? And we often question, is it good enough?
Benefits of Self-Care
Boost Self Esteem
Reduce Stress
Mental Clarity
Boost Creativity
A self-care journal is writing in the present moment where you are the only reader.
Self-Care Writing
Freefall is the perfect self-care writing technique. Freefall is writing from the larger Self, beyond the reach of the ego and its censors. The technique invokes the courage to fall without a parachute, into the words as they come, into the thoughts before they have fully formed in the mind. The moment when someone shifts into that deeper level is unmistakable, “the wheels catch fire from their own motion."
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The technique is described further in Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg
Tips
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Keep your hand moving.
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Do not pause to reread the line you have just written.
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Do not cross out.
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Even if you write something you didn’t mean to write, leave it.
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Don’t worry about spelling, punctuation, grammar.
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Don’t even care about writing in a straight line or within the margins.
Self-Care Breathing Exercise
A self-care activity to start
Take a moment to start with the Self-Care Breathing exercise
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Scan your body from head-to-toe and observe how your body feels.
Is there a strong physical sensation or emotion present?
Write down your physical and emotional feelings at this present moment.
Try starting each sentence with words such as “I feel”, “I sense”. Take a breath between each sentence to help you stay mindful.
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Take a moment to re-read your writing:
What did you notice?
How did it feel?
As you reflect back to the start of the exercise, how do you feel now?
Become more present
Mindfulness is about focusing our attention and increasing awareness of the present moment. Often we get trapped in our own thoughts and lose a sense of what is around us.
Find something to look at. What you choose is up to you, start with a single item. A chair, a table, a person, a wall, a glass.
Once you have chosen your object, look at it intently for a few minutes. Take several deep breaths as you focus on the object to help you relax and focus your attention.
Imagine you are going to paint it, now do a word painting.
Describe the object in great detail, observing aspects of it that you wouldn’t normally see. The texture, the colour, the shape, the position, the density. Describe the feelings that arise in the present moment as you focus your attention on the object.
As you write, take a breath after each sentence to focused.
Debrief
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What did you notice that perhaps you wouldn't normally?
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As you look back at the object now, does it appear any different?
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What relationship does it have with any feelings that arose during the exercise?
Examine a difficult relationship
Take a moment to think of a current or past conflict that you’ve struggled to navigate. It could be a current issue or it could be something that is in the past.
In this exercise we will explore the situation from 3 positions:
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The “I” perspective - This is the perspective we use on a daily basis.
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The “other” perspective - This involves imagining how the other person perceives the situation. It requires us to let go of our own person projections about the situation. To explore how the other person may think or feel about it.
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The “outsider” perspective - What would someone who you respect who is outside of the situation say?
Take a moment to write a few sentences from each position. Each time you change position, take a moment to really embody the other person. It may help to stand up and physically sit in a different position.
You can also try using your non-dominant hand when writing in one of the other positions.
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I......
Other.......
Outsider.......
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Debrief
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What did you find when you viewed your situation from all three positions?
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Which position do you use most often? Which would be beneficial to include more often?
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What was the difference in the content of the writing?
Explore Your Identity
This exercise explores the different parts of your identity that make up your whole self. Each of us has a cast of characters that show up at various points in your day. This is a creative exercise that enables you to explore these characters playfully.
Imagine you are on a bus. Everyone on the bus is a different part of your psyche, a sub-personality. Your task is to meet and speak with every one of these people, no matter how unsavoury they may appear to be.
As you take a journey on the bus, sit down next to each of the passengers individually. Ask them their name and which trait they represent. Notice how they are dressed, how they smell, their physical appearance. Really embrace the creative side of the exercise.
Ask these questions about each passenger:
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What is your gift to me?
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What do you need for me to integrate your into my life?
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What else do you need from me?
One character to explore here may be the inner critic that prevents you from fully embracing mindful writing.
Debrief:
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What characters were you drawn to? What characters did you avoid?
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How might you fully integrate these characters into your life?
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What aspects of this exercise did you enjoy most?
Inspiration for this exercise:
Relax physical pain
We can go weeks, months, years with unacknowledged physical pain. Perhaps a painful hip, a creaky knee or an itchy elbow.
Being aware, present and acknowledging physical discomfort can often help us reframe the pain it may be causing.
Scan through your body and identify a part (internally or externally) that is a source of discomfort.
Think of a few words or phrases that describe that part of the body. Perhaps there is a metaphor that springs to mind (creaky knee is actually a good example)
Now explore that part of your body through writing a dialogue, a conversation between yourself and that part. It will look much like the script of a play:
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Me: Why are you raising your ugly head again?
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Creaky Knee: Because you pushed me hard
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Me: I don’t know why you cannot make the effort
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Creaky Knee: I have done so many times but now I need rest
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Me: …..
Debrief:
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What new observations did you make?
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How might acknowledging this pain change your relationship to it?
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How do you feel now?
Inspiration for this exercise:
Increase Emotional Awareness
Scan your body from head-to-toe and observe how your body feels. Is there a strong physical sensation or emotion present?
Identify an emotion or physical sensation you want to explore more deeply, for example, Anger. Really embody that emotion and describe it as concretely as you can using a metaphor. In the example of Anger, it might be like a <fire>.
Once you have identified the metaphor explore it further using these clean questions:
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What kind of <fire> is that <fire>?
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For example; Is it hot? glowing? soft? strong?
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Is there anything else about that <fire>?
Continue using these questions to help build the metaphor and grow a deeper awareness of the present moment. As you like the questions new metaphors may emerge. Use the same questions to explore other metaphors that arise.
Debrief:
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What drew you to that emotion or physical sensation?
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How did the metaphor change as you explored it?
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What aspects of this exercise did you enjoy most?
Inspiration for this exercise:
Clean Language:Revealing Metaphors and Opening Minds: Wendy Sullivan and Judy Rees
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